Tuesday, January 31, 2012

Choosing It

At work right now I’m teaching a group on Cognitive Behavioral Therapy – the relationship between your thoughts, feelings, and actions. The last two weeks I have been focusing on helping the kids decide to make a choice to actively engage in actions or activities that create positive feelings and thoughts that enable them to avoid their habitually negative behaviors. That sounds confusing, but it’s simple…. If you engage in activities that make you have happy feelings and thoughts you’ll be more likely to engage in more positive behaviors and have more happy thoughts and feelings and the cycle will continue. Makes sense, right? Yes, but it also seems like a really hard concept for a lot of people to grasp.
I’ve had a lot of fun reading about this because it’s something that I’ve been obsessed with my entire “adult” life – how can I be happy, or feel more fulfilled in my life, right now. Not five or ten or one year down the road but right now. It’s something I’m constantly grappling with, discussing, and thinking about. I like to think of happiness as being something I have control over and something I’m making active decisions to have in my life. So, as I’ve been encouraging the boys at work to think of activities they can participate in to feel more fulfilled I’ve been thinking of things I do that make me feel this sense of contentment or happiness in my own life. Are you ready for it? Because it’s a long list… spending time with Davis (duh), watching RW/RR Challenge (obviously) and The Bach, training for our annual relay race, going out to dinner, creating things, lunch dates with friends, Sunday dinners, winning big $$ in hearts tournaments, reading good books, learning something new (currently skiing), coming up with fun YW’s activities, having a good session with a kid at work, cuddling with Lyla, InstaGram, concerts, singing in my car, long baths, girls nights, project days with my mom, holding my nieces and nephews, chick- flicks, etc. the list goes on and on, and it doesn’t really matter what’s on it but it’s good for me to look at to remind myself that I have the control to be happy at the end of the day, and if I’m not happy I need to do something to change it.

5 comments:

.kaitlyn. said...

amen sister!

Breona said...

Have you read the Happiness Project by Gretchen Rubin? I read half of it then took a hiatus from reading altogether. Very interesting concepts, ideas and results from things that make people/her happy. Pick it up. Also. I will bring some yw stuff for you tomorrow--hanging in centi right?

MishMyBelle said...

Great thoughts, Mel. I love me a little CBT!

maeve said...

i love this post. very much. your happy contentment is contagious! keep it coming!

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